Repair and Reconnection: Be the Change You Want to See in Your Relationship Paperback – November 9, 2025

Conflict is inevitable in long-term relationships—not because couples are broken, but because two individuals, shaped by him different life experiences, emotional wiring, and personal needs, will naturally encounter friction. But as Bill and Robin Shearer have shown through their groundbreaking work, the true measure of a couple’s strength lies not in avoiding conflict, but in skillful and quick repair and reconnection. For over four decades, these licensed mental health professionals have dedicated their careers to helping couples transform relational challenges into opportunities for deeper connection and growth. Bill and Robin developed Mindful Choices Couples Therapy as a response to what they call “The Couples Paradox”—the tendency for people to react in emotionally triggered ways that undermine the very connection they crave most.At the heart of their method is the mastery of key aspects of relational well-being—from emotional regulation and awareness to empathy and compassion, the Shearers draw on neuroscience, and mindfulness-based behavioral therapies to help couples understand their emotional patterns and rewire them through what they call habitualizing—the process of turning healthy relational choices into automatic, lifelong habits.Bill and Robin bring four decades of learning, experience and heartfelt compassion to helping couples thrive. Read more